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Ochuko Akpovbovbo's avatar

"Although there is a throughline between a woman emptying her bag in the 2000s and today’s content creators’ gift guides, there is one significant shift: self-awareness brought on by the internet." OKAY THIS!

Brendon Holder's avatar

you see it right?????? 🙂‍↕️

Ochuko Akpovbovbo's avatar

I SEE IT!

HVDES's avatar

What a piece?! Thanks!!!

Liana Satenstein's avatar

I loved this—and I love that you nailed what “What’s In Your Bag” has become today…shilling product under the guise of intimacy!

Brendon Holder's avatar

thanks so much for reading liana!! with the surplus of “what’s in my bag” content, i loved that i could reference your incredible work :)

esmeralda's avatar

Every single thing you write is so poignant and good! I cannot wait to see the trajectory of your writing career holy shit.

Brendon Holder's avatar

this brought the biggest smile to my face, thank you so much for saying this 😭😭

Ashely Tisdale, Ph.D.'s avatar

I so appreciate the clarity with which you identified the difference between peeks into someone's bag then vs. now. "The contents of a bag, at least in the 2000s, were meant to be private..." THAT'S IT! Getting a peek into someone's bag, or their vanity in a mini-interview felt so much more personal then.

Brendon Holder's avatar

right? What’s the point of looking in someone’s bag if it’s full of sponsored content like an Architectural Digest tour?

Lisa Kholostenko's avatar

The specificity of *who* these gift guides are supposedly for, perfectly encapsulates the absurdity you just so eloquently described.

"The Pampered Jetset Boho Babe." I'm sorry, who? I don't know her!!

Also, THIS shook me to my core: "A morose metaphor for the importance of externality over interiority."

Brendon Holder's avatar

thanks so much for reading!

ayan artan's avatar

hit the nail on the head (but when have you never?) there's something so manufactured about those videos; they mimic intimacy but are actually anything but.

Brendon Holder's avatar

thank you ayan! yeah if you ever see me do a what’s in my bag.. just know im getting to the bag with a fist full of sponsored content heheeeee

ayan artan's avatar

in this economy?? understood lol

Katie Stone's avatar

One time I said "the brands we buy make up our identity" in a TikTok, and let me tell you: the communists did NOT like that one. Thank you for articulating the subconscious thoughts in my brain, as always!!

Martha Adams's avatar

finishing this piece, which is essentially criticising our relationship to consumption, and performative consumption, with the line 'to be loved is to be understood' is sickening & genius - I love it. I can hear that line on a christmas TV ad.